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Why You Must Love Yourself Before Showing Love To Others - By Florence Olugbodi


Albeit, my initial plan for today was to share some tips on how to stay in love, so procrastination wanted to set in but I fought it.

Picking up my pen to start writing, my inner spirit told me something I couldn't ignore.

"Why dont you tell them about falling in love with themselves first before sharing tips on how to stay in love, don't you know self love is the foundation of any other love"? Do you think someone that doesn't have the full understanding of how to love him/herself will be able to show love to someone else"?..

Far from imagination, I knew God has spoken to me to write about this topic today, hence this article.

Now, let's get started. Take a deep breathe and follow me as I take you through the journey of 'self love'.

Wait! are you even in love with yourself? Oh!  No wonder your relationship always end up jeopardized. The basic truth is Self love forms the foundation of your single, most important relationship - that with yourself.

The strength of all your other relationships is exactly equal to the strength of that foundation-self love. To love yourself is not just a self-esteem boosting piece of advise. It is the prerequisite to truly loving others.

The golden rule tells us to "love your neighbour as you love yourself". You are likely to have heard it many times, expressed in different ways, and you might have thought  it is about loving others.

Love your neighbour as yourself means you first love yourself before you love others. If you don't know how to love yourself, then, how do you want to love your neighbour? If you don't love yourself how do you want to earn other people's love?

First, let us dispel some myths about what it means to love yourself. Self love is not about being arrogant or being selfish, It is not about comparing yourself to others to determine if you are good enough. It is not  about putting yourself first at the expense of others. It is not about always getting your way. It is not about always winning. It is not about "only looking after yourself..

To love yourself is to be in awe of the miracle of your existence. It is to accept yourself as you are - the "light" parts and the "dark", the "good" and the "bad" - while knowing that the real you is above the perceived dualities of the physical realm, You carry that special Grace.

It is to be willing to receive as much as you are willing to give and do both equally. It is about knowing your values and your boundaries and honouring them. It is about teaching others how to treat you by showing them how you treat yourself. If you dont show others how you treat yourself then expect them to treat you the way they want.

It is about being kind to yourself, It is about looking after your mind, your body and your spirit,  It is about knowing you worth it, not because of what you have achieved or what you look like or what others think of you, but because love is your birthright no matter what. You are born to love and to be loved..

Now take a moment and think of those things you most love to hear from others about you. Be it that they love you, admire you, accept you just as you are, appreciate you, forgive you or anything else. Now, all these things people say about you are same things you need tot tell yourself.

So why wait for them to tell you when you can actually tell it to yourself? You need to write them out and repeat it to yourself everyday, then you will see the inner peace that will come with it.

Frankly speaking, you cannot give something that you do not have. This is not a fallacy but so many people desperately love others without showing love to themselves.

Dear reader, have this in mind, to love,  you must first have love. To have love, you must love yourself. Only then will you be able to truly love others.

Don't forget self love is the greatest of all  love.

Abidemi Olugbodi Florence
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